Not being able to finish after more than 30 minutes of sex can be exhausting, embarrassing, and awkward. Only being able to get off with your own hands can also make your partner feel insecure and unworthy, because they feel like they are not able to satisfy you. So, what is your problem? Why can’t you finish even after a mind-blowing sex?
There’s a lot of possible causes to this. It could be caused of medication, even a flu medication can affect your ability to ejaculate. Another common cause is the abuse of alcohol or drugs, which has been proven to cause impotence and ejaculation problems. However, most people experience this due to performance anxiety and due to the fact that before they started being actively sexual, they tend to masturbate one too many times and so the body is used to being satisfied manually.
No matter the cause, here are some solutions you can try out.
We know that this is a very hard thing to do. But instead of watching all day, you can try waiting for the time when you and your partner will have sex. The built up tension will help, because it’ll feel more satisfying and your body will think that it’s time to ejaculate at last. Then, your body will get used to it and it’ll be that way since. It takes a lot of patience, especially if you and your partner don’t see each other often or you are too used to masturbating on your own.
Masturbation is actually healthy, but do it too often and your body will think it doesn’t need sex to ejaculate. Proportion your masturbation with sex, so that your body will think it needs both. You can also ask your partner to help with the tension. Dirty talking or cybersex helps, since it’ll make you more ‘hungry’ and imagine more about you and your partner instead of what you see in porn sites.
Cut Down The Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety is experienced by both men and women. Usually, their goal is being able to satisfy their partner instead of satisfying themselves too. They get too focused on it that they can’t satisfy themselves, which is why sometimes men cannot ejaculate and women cannot orgasm. A simple solution to this is really having a balance of satisfying both you and your partner. Communication is key to relieving performance anxiety.
Tell your partner what makes you feel good and ask what you have to do to make them feel good, vice versa. This doesn’t just concern positions and foreplay, but also the emotional stance before, during, and after sex. For example, a lot of people actually find it more satisfying if they get a cuddle session after sex instead of just the rush-and-go kind.…